Me with our “mothered” children!
Marissa Mayer, because of her high profile and high paying job, is out on the table for judgement on how she is handling the birth of her child. I do not know Marissa, most of us do not, but to be at the position that she is at in the business world, she has made many choices in her life that have favored her work over her personal life. Fine, yes FINE. Her choice, her life.
Now that she is a mother, and making the choices that are right for her, why do we know better? Not all birth mothers are the same. Although we have all carried a child for 9 months, we all handle the physical, mental and emotional experience differently. As a stay home mother I saw all styles of being a stay home mum, and there were times when I thought that I had the right formula. Well, life had a way of humbling me, and teaching me that the more that I looked to others and faulted them, the more that I had coming back to me.
So Marissa, go ahead, be the woman and now the mother that you are and want to be. Your child will have his own unique journey, with a mother who is so successful in the outside world, the outside the home world. And life will go on.
Let’s not divide women over motherhood. It is in the judging that we most hurt ourselves, as a gender, and as the creators that we are.
Shanthi